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Look, ya’ll… parenting is hard. Parenting a special needs kid is REALLY hard. Parenting a special needs kid while battling an autoimmune disease… well, let’s just say sometimes stuff doesn’t get done. It falls through the cracks.
And that’s okay.
I’ve been really struggling with my new Stay-At-Home-Mom gig after leaving my full time job. I feel like now that I’m HOME all of the time, I should be able to manage everything. I should have a spotless house and home-cooked meals and a potty-trained child who has perfectly coordinated outfits and educational time every day.
Sometimes, that isn’t the reality of life. If I can keep up with the laundry, dishes, and keep the kid from burning this joint to the ground…. that’s a miracle most days.
The fact is, my son has about 4,782 times the energy that I have. His body works, and sometimes mine just doesn’t.
So, for the first time today, my cleaning company came.
And I feel SO. MUCH. BETTER.
These blessed women got down on their hands and knees and scrubbed my baseboards. They removed pretty much all traces of dust from my home. THEY GOT A SCENTSY WAX STAIN OFF OF MY WALL! And they did it all while chatting and being friendly, no judgement. (Honestly, the adult interaction was a plus too! This mommin’ gig get’s lonely!)
And now I can feel less guilt at the end of the day. It’s a small price to pay to have a clean home that I can finally focus and get some work done in. Because in my life, there aren’t enough hours in the day. Something has to fall behind for other things to get caught up. Outsourcing this one thing allows me to actually FINISH the other tasks that I have to accomplish and its an amazing relief for me!
Self-care is important. It’s VITAL for being a good parent, partner, and person. Self-care can come in many forms. For me it’s a hot shower ALONE, a clean house that I didn’t have to break my back for, and an occasional pedicure.
Find your self-care. Find what makes you feel human and whole and DO IT. If it’s in the budget, hire a cleaning company. If it isn’t have a cleaning PARTY! Ask your friends or family to come over, put on some music and help you clean! Once your house is done, offer to have the party at theirs next week.
If you love to clean and that’s not your time struggle, what else could help you? A massage? A haircut? New shoes? Just time to sit ALONE and scroll through your Facebook feed?
Motherhood is hard. There’s such a huge level of guilt that comes with it, because we are expected to be everything for everyone. Today, I want you to take ten minutes for you. Sneak out while the kiddo is napping, or ask your partner or a friend to cover the zoo while you take a breather…. Hit the reset button on your life. Take a few minutes for YOU.
I promise you’ll feel better! It will be so worth it.
Take care of YOU, loves.
Until next time,